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Procrastination
- How to beat it
by
Linda McGrory
Now I reckon I'm an expert on this subject - procrastination? Could
write a book about it! But no, I won't inflict that on you, just a few
ideas, tips and hints that might help you get over those situations
when a job has to be done, and you're really struggling to start.
For most of us, what generally happens is that we put that task off,
again and again, and then discover we are running out of time - panic
sets in, the deadline approaches, and you end up having to do it anyway
and probably not doing the job the best you can. Sounds familiar,
doesn't it? Well, most of us suffer from this problem to some degree.
So what are some of the causes of procrastination? Putting off
a task because we think it's going to be unpleasant; fear of failure;
guilt; the wish to feel safe, avoiding risk; and, oddly enough, fear of
success! Some, or all, of these will be recognisable to you So,
basically, procrastination is caused by fear.
And procrastination can pop up in various guises: indecision -
if you can't decide what to do, you don't have to do it: sickness -
migraine or stomach upset often precede an unwanted situation: or
busyness - my personal favourite is list making! Hey, you can go
on making lists - and lists of lists - endlessly.
Because of procrastination, you can end up waiting for things
to work out, and by waiting and not moving forward, you run the risk of
having to react to events in your life rather than being in control of
them. In extreme cases, this fear can become an illness - an inability
to perform any task at all because of the belief that it has to be
perfect. And remember, when you are procrastinating, you are using up
the present moment by doing absolutely nothing.
And this is really what it is about - our beliefs and thoughts
about future events. But thoughts can be changed, they are not
cast in stone, and a belief is just a thought .
So what can we do about it and how can we help ourselves?
First of all, recognise what is happening, and once you identify
procrastination, you can start to deal with it.
- Just begin something, whatever it is you've been putting
off - a letter, a phone call - but tell yourself that you'll only do it
for five minutes, then you will stop. You will find that you will
actually finish the task once you start, because, of course, it's not
nearly so intimidating as you had thought.
- Stop thinking in the long-term. Everything seems so huge
when you look at the whole of a task. Take, for example, writing
a book - writing and finishing a whole book is a truly daunting
prospect, but what if, instead, you decided to write for ten minutes
today? That's all, ten minutes. You will probably find yourself
writing for twenty minutes - hey, that's great, give yourself a big pat
on the back.
- Or how about, giving yourself a definite time to do that
task you've been putting off. Put it in the diary, for, say, 10.00 on
Saturday. It's there written down, just like any appointment, which of
course you will keep.
- And why not ask yourself, 'What is the worst thing that
could happen to me if I do this task?' Write down the answer,
read it through and the chances are that it really isn't that scary
after all.
- It also helps to recognise the words we use when we're
immobilised by procrastination, 'I wish I had a new job' - well
it's not going to arrive in the next post, so go out and get it! And
the very insidious word 'should'. This is a word I have struck from my
vocabulary and I suggest you do the same. It not only means that you
are not doing a task, it also makes you feel guilty - a double whammy!
Try instead to say 'I could do ...' and this then gives you the choice
and the power.
Remember that we are not perfect, and that whatever we do is
not going to be perfect either. We can only do our best, and that's all
anyone can ask of themselves - so just do it!
This article was written by Linda McGrory, a professional copy-editor
and proofreader, and webmaster of Work from Home and
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